


Below: This is how a civilised city should commute. Proper cycle paths, signage and people using the facilities.


Poland, Warsaw, Mazovia. Spirit of place, development,
human spirituality; consciousness.
The overnight snow is rapidly disappearing from the lawn as I write these words and I'd be reasonably sure that this is the last snow of this winter. So time to take the camera and set off for a walk around the snow-covered fields for what could be the last time for eight or nine months.
So here we see the need for two separate sliders; one for facing up to the world - set further over towards "standing firm", and another one with a greater bias towards "giving way".
On what basis does this slider move?
Standing firm on the basis of logic: "My proposal makes more sense than yours. I suggest we do this". "I don't care - I still want to do it my way." But what if both parties believe in the sense of their case?
Standing firm on the basis of good vs. evil: Not yielding to bloodthirsty dictators. But what if the bloodthirsty dictator considers himself to be good, and you to be evil?
Giving way on the basis of long-term vs. short term: "If I do this for you now, you will do this for me later."
Giving way on little matters in order to stand firm on the big issues. Losing the battle to win the war.
Agreeing a compromise - give and take on both sides.
Unlike some of my early postings on a life in balance, knowing when to give way or stand firm has to be done on a case-by-case basis. So we face this particular dilemma on a daily basis, at work, at home, in the street. Knowing when to give way, but being able to stand firm. Being unable to do so leads to frustration and unhappiness, so we tend to withdraw from situations where we're likely to be faced with a humiliating stand-down.
The natural 'ladder of authority', as I call it, where the biologically and socially determined pecking order comes into play, needs to be understood. Around this, understanding the games people play (dealing with a trademan, shop assistant, service provider in such a way as not to get bamboozled into giving way) is crucial. There are many people out there whose livelihoods depend on them standing firmer than you, the customer (estate agents, used car salesmen, financial advisers etc). Those who give way too much to their customer don't make enough money for their company and don't last too long.
A far more complex issue, then, when striving to keep your life in balance.
This time last year:
Summerhouses near Okęcie
This time two years ago:
A truly British icon
These seasonal emotional shifts – the fillip from the first identifiably warm spring breeze, say, or the sinking feeling induced by shortening late-summer evenings – are such a fixture in our lives that they can become near-invisible. We're slow to attribute our feelings to them, and even psychologists haven't studied them much...It's an idea I can instantly relate to. Despite modern life, electricity, television and diverse other forms of entertainment doing their best to iron out differences between midwinter and high summer, the constantly changing seasons have a profound effect on the way I feel within myself (that wonderfully useful Polish word samopoczucie). For example, trying to fast in the run-up to midwinter rather than doing in early spring would be terrifyingly difficult, especially giving up drink, a useful tonic when days are short and cold and dark and dismal.
I can't say I'd like to live on Vanilla Street. Life here has neither the urban sophistication of a city centre apartment, nor the privacy and quiet of a suburban detached house.
Cycling back to Jeziorki, I noticed I was not the only person on his bike; this chap (below) was out and about for the fun of it too, exploring the new streets of Zamienie. Below: what's this on ul. Nawłocka? A replica of Anne Hathaway's Cottage for Jeziorki? Several houses have arisen in Jeziorki since we moved in nine years ago, but this is the first 'kanadyjczyk' or wooden-framed, Canadian-style construction.
I personally question the soundness of such a construction method. From experience, I know that the bricks-and-mortar element of a house is proportionally its cheapest part. Foundations, doors, windows, flooring, central heating, plumbing, roofing, a kitchen and bathroom - these are all expensive, and saving a bit on having chipboard cladding over timber frame is hardly noticeable in the overall scheme of things (especially if you're repaying the investment over many years). I may be mistaken, but I value the solidity of a brick-built dwelling (and I think that buyers of second-hand houses do so too).
This time two years ago:
The commuter's camera
This time three years ago:
In praise of Łódź
"We have all the time in the world," sang Louis Armstrong; two years later he was dead. Yet Hal David's lyrics, John Barry's music would not have sounded convincing sung by a younger vocalist.
This time last year:
Commuters' staging post
This time three years ago:
Return of the migrating geese
But fear of failure, fear of commitment to effort, fear of trying - fear is also harmful to the individual and to society. Little gets accomplished. Paralysis by analysis holds back get-up-and-go.
In one's own personal life, the key thing is to be aware of your own motivations; are you held back by timidity to the extent that you cannot realise your potential? Or does your greed propel you in the wrong direction, distracting you from realising your potential? It is important to stand above and look at the greed-fear balance within yourself from the meta level. Understand your biology and rise above it. Be conscious of it, apply awareness in everyday situations when you are faced with a greed/fear driven predicament.
This time two years ago:
Ul. Poloneza at its muddy worst
This time three years ago:
Poland's labour market woes
Weather continuing to look good for tomorrow and Wednesday. I'm glad that the late winter is dry - the water table needs to get back to normal levels if we're to avoid a repeat of last spring's flooding.
This time two years ago:
Wetlands, late winter (2009)
This time three years ago:
Wetlands, late winter (2008)
* Inshallah - God willing, which as one wag put it, is like the Spanish word mañana though without the same pressing sense of urgency.
This time last year:
Dogs begin to bark, hounds begin to howl
This time three years ago:
A light dusting of snow